Do you ever wonder why you can’t stick to things?
Why you keep ‘falling off the wagon’, giving in to temptation, taking 1 step forward and 2 steps back?
I would hedge a guess that you don’t have a strong enough ‘why’.
What is your goal, and why are you trying to achieve it?
Most people only have a really vague idea about both these things.
They’ll usually say something along the lines of ‘I want to lose 2 stone and tone up’.
When pressed on the reason why, they might say something like ‘to be fitter and healthier’.
That’s great, but it’s nowhere near strong or detailed enough to actually resonate deep inside, and to generate the drive and determination that will be needed to achieve that goal when things get a little tough.
What does being 2 stone (or however much you want) lighter, fitter and healthier REALLY mean to you?
Does it mean you’ll be able to go into a shop and pick any clothes you like the look of, and feel confident in them?
Does it mean you’ll feel sexy and attractive to your husband?
Does it mean you’ll finally feel happy and have a body that’s healthy and that you’re proud of?
Does it mean you’ll be a good role model for your kids and ensure they grow up with a happy, healthy relationship with food and themselves?
Does it mean you’ll be able to live a long and healthy life with your family and be around to see your children have children of their own?
All these things are a lot more detailed and meaningful and come from deep down inside you. When you know your true why it should pull on your heart strings and make you feel pretty emotional at the thought of achieving or not achieving it.
When you’ve identified your true why, turn it into a mission statement – write down what you want, in detail, as if you’ve already achieved it.
I am a happy and healthy size 14. I am active every day and nurture my body with delicious healthy foods. I can run around after my kids without getting worn out and I know that I am a great role model for them. I love feeling fit and strong and knowing I am being the best I can be.
Keep your mission statement somewhere that you can read it every day.
When you read it, actually visualise that statement being true.
SEE yourself as you want to be, FEEL how you want to feel.
If you do this strongly enough, the thought and feeling of achieving it will make you feel AMAZING.
You should want it so bad that the thought of NOT achieving this goal should make you almost want to cry.
The more you practice visualising, the more powerful the vision becomes, and the bigger your emotional pull will be.
When you’re faced with temptation to come off track, conjure up that image inside your head.
You can chose to move towards it or away from it.
It’s always your choice.
If you have a strong vision of what you truly want, the choice is a lot easier to make.
Hayley Plummer – Haywards Heath Personal Trainer and Women’s Fat Loss Coach