Are you stressing over everything?
Wishing you were slimmer, fitter, had more self control?
Think you’re not doing a good enough job?
Trying to help everyone and neglecting yourself?
Feel like you’re failing because you can never get everything done?
Worrying that you’re not good / slim / strong / attractive / intelligent / fill-in-the-blank enough?
If you answered yes to these questions, I can pretty much guarantee you are an amazing person, and you need to stop beating yourself up right now.
So many people (women especially) think like this, and all the ones I know are some of the nicest, kindest, most awesome people you could wish to meet.
So if it sounds like you, stop for a second and ask yourself…
Are you doing your best?
Do you WANT to feel like this?
What are all the things you can be grateful for right now?
Are you remembering how short life is?
Do you want to look back at the end of your days and remember a life spent worrying, or a life spent doing the best you can, having fun, and enjoying it?
What can you do to change this?
Well, in a nutshell…if you catch your inner voice saying nasty things about you, tell it to stop talking shit and replace that thought with something good.
If you’re taking on too much, stop, and/or delegate it.
If you can’t change it, don’t stress about it!
I know that sounds incredibly simple when in reality it’s not always that easy. But the choice does come down to you. You ARE in control of your own thoughts and perceptions. You can CHOOSE how you perceive and react to anything that happens to you.
Something that can be extremely helpful is reading or listening to something positive every day.
We are bombarded with so much negativity in our daily lives. The news and the newspapers are full of tales of murder, natural disasters, money problems and general misery.
Then you have social media which is often full of people moaning about things or just showing a highlight real of their life. Perhaps you’ve experienced seeing people on facebook who seem to be doing amazing and looking just like you want to look? Then you start comparing yourself to them and feeling like you’re miles away from that?
You can wake up feeling great and be really depressed before you finish breakfast.
Try avoiding a lot of that stuff. Do you need to watch the news? How about reading a few pages of an inspiring book instead? Save the time usually spent scrolling through facebook and spend 5 minutes meditating, reading, or just thinking about things you’re grateful for and what you plan to achieve that day.
Some great books you can read that will start to influence your mindset include –
Awaken the Giant Within (Anthony Robbins)
The Chimp Paradox (Professor Steve Peters)
The Guide (Dr William Holden)
Feel the Fear and do it Anyway (Susan Jeffers)
You can get most of these on audible too, then listen to them while out for a walk.
And there’s also a load of great podcasts you can listen to for free – Motivate Yourself with Richard Nicholls is a great place to start, and the Ben Coomber Podcast has some great fitness/nutrition/mindset episodes too.
Try just learning one thing each day that will help improve your mindset.
And keep this question at the front of your mind – what’s one thing you can do that will move you forward and make you feel good?
Focus on gradually moving forward, but also appreciate everything great you do, and how far you’ve already come.
If you keep focusing on the negatives and telling yourself you’re not good enough, nothing will change.
If you flip it, focus on the positives and decide you ARE good enough, EVERYTHING can change.
Do you need some help with this?
It’s something I focus on with my clients, both one to one (very limited space left) and online.
You need to WANT to change and do the work required. But if you’re ready and just need a coach for guidance and support, then just send me an email at email@example.com